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6 The Canadian Statesman, Bowmanvilie, Octaber 18,1978 Section Two School Pre pares T hanksgriving Dinner Mrs. Nelson's grades 4 and 5 class perform an Indian dance while chanting an Indian song. The class is studying Indian culture and decided to dresS up as Indians as part of their contribution to the Thanksgiving Day at Mitchell's Corners Public School. themes that have been stereo- . .... ... .types for centuries, but now seem ta be losing their sting: -"My mother-in-law talks -"She knaws ail the answers -a ---the wrong ones." "She',s a meddiesome i ~ troublemnaker." -"She's ega-deflating." -"She's mean." -"Sbe's aggressive." ~ ~; ,. ~..~ -"She visits toa often and .. ....... .. . ...stays to long." -"She is ta, be avaided." . ..... .... .... ...0f these traditianal indict- .... ......ments, the tbree mast cam- mon bave been: mothers-in- law meddle, are possessive, . .....and nag. The pro and con views are sametimes amusingly cambined. Warking with FTD, .. .....a number af radia and I . television statins asked the Dressed as Indians, these grades 4 and 5 students peel potatoes for their part in the Thanksgiving Day festivities at Mitchell's 'Corners school. The vindication of Mothers- In-Law- Her Day is Cloming,.Up on Oct. 22nd Four thousand years of. scorning, maligning, siander- ing and poking fun at mothers- in-iaw is coming ta an end. For on October 22, Mother-in- Law'sDay, a day that will live in the heart of every mother who aiso is a mother-in-law, will be ceiebrated. The abject is ta refurbish the distinctly negative image of mnothers-in-law as interferîng, nagging shrews. In actual .fact, mast people dan't accept that description at ail. Recent studies by Florists' Trans- warld 'Delivery, the 17,000- member'-intercity floral- deiivery cooperative, dîsclos- ed that most people like their mothers-in-law.1, Mother-In-Law First A Mother 1, Belive it or not, the follow- ing were typical camments: " I lave my matber-in-iaw as mucb as my mother." -"She's a fine, ail-round persan. " -"She's gaad ta live witb." -"Sbe's understanding." -"Sbe's kind and belpful." -"She bas the secret of good living. " Counterbalancing these comments are the eigbt public to submit comments on the idea of Mother-In4-law's Day. "It's about time", said one woman. "t's a beautiful idea," said another, adding, "I wish more people wouid appreciate their mothers-in- law. " One writer said in verse: "Mothers-in-law are much abused and picked upon, But when help is needed, they can always be relied upon. Mothers-in-law can be sweet, lovable and really swell, But the roof will shake wben they start to yell. Just the thought of my mother -in-law fis my heart with joy, For I live in Minnesota and she lives in Illinois." "It's ail too plain that the hostility against mothers-in- law persists today largely because irrational taboos of ancient cultures hae been perpetuated as stereotypes," according to Frank J. Bacca- la, FTD Group Director of Marketing and Communica- tions. While not motivated solely by altruism, FTD launched a national campaign in the United States last Fail to get belated recognition of mothers-in-law. A successful endeavor, FTD is introducing it to Canada this year. "A mother-in-law is first a mother, after ail, and should be treated with the same affection and deference as mothers are," Mr. Baccala points out. Mothers-in-law have long; been the butt of comedians' jokes. Yet, studies reveal that few men complain about their mothers-in-law. Nine out of ten complaints come from women, writes Dr. Evelyn Duvaîl in "In Laws - Pro and Con." In general, younger wives are more likely to bad-moutb their husbands mothers than aider wives. Ancients Respected Husband's Mother Scholars maintain they can- not explain the origin of the taboos respecting mothers-in- iaw. But such taboos existed among most ancient societies, both advanced and primitive. In the former, a wife's mother was considered unimportant and was generally isolated and ignored, whereas the husband's mother was usually treated with respect. HOW TO FACE YOUR REFRIGERATOR. ) eou don thav to give it :he :old shouder just ecuse you're trymng to lose weight. WeTl show you how to outsmart it, and stil.t enjoy dehicious f ood. Its ail part of our own Behavior Modfcaton method, especiaily designed' You're învife to attend aaWeight Wthr ls seeWthes ameeetinagchrs Metin DÏc4 erho te enl ActionaPlefancaner o you Attend tree ouf ch rei N tO LGAINto AJAX Wm. Legros Community Centre 1 Centennial Ave. Monday 7:30 p. m. PORT HOPE Knights of Columbus Hall Filas & Hector Sts., Mon. 730 p.m. BOWMAN VILLE Memorial Park Club House Liberty St. Thurs. 7:30 p. m. OSHAWA YMCA 199 Centre St. Tues. 9.30 ar. OSHAWA St. Marks Anglican Church 520 Beurling Ave. Thurs. 7:30 p.m. NORTH OSHAWA Comrnunity Centre 1139 Mary St. North Thurs 9M a.m UXBRIDGE Salvation Army Auditoirium 114 Brock St. W. Wed. 7:30 p.m. PICKERING Royal Canadian Leg ion Hall 1555 Bailey St. Tues. 7:30 p. m. Wed. 9:30 p. m. WHITBY Iroquois Park Arena Whitby Hall (Upstairs) 500 Victoria W. Tues. 7:30 pm. OSHAWA St. Pauls Presbyterian Church 32 Wilson Rd. North Wed. 730 pm. OSHAWA Emmanuel Baptist Chu rch 461 Philip Murry St. (Near Cedar) Tues. 7:30 p.m. PORT PERRY Masonic Hall 320 Queeno St. Mon.730 pm. FOR CLASS, INFORMATION CALL MISSISSAUGA 1-826-9200 ENROLL AT ANY CLASS I Firsf meeting Fe$10alohrmeetings$4. Special senior ctzn& stden ae -firstmeetng $5 Ail other meeins$2 ,LFREE EACH M ON IR W I me WaImr Eastevrn CraaLmtedAdoze srohe tade mark Weight Wache, , W richtWtie il ioz h/B Registered Owner In primitive societies, how- ever, a wife's mother was often treated like a leper. She wgs frequently forbidden to attend the wedding ceremony, and in some societies was neyer allowed to see or speak to bier son-in-law in the belief it would cause children to be born dead. Centuries ago in Yucatan the Indians believed if a husband ever saw his mother- in-law af ter bis marriage that hie would neyer beget cbildren. Mother-In-Law Jokes There have been uncounted thousands of motber-in-law jokes over the years. Because most have been characterized by hostiiity, the jokes have rarely been funny. Some examples: -"A mother rocks the cradie, but a motber-in-iaw rocks the boat." -"My motber-in-law bas a beart as big as a mountain, and a mouth twice the size. and a moutb twice the size. " -"A good use for zippers is for my motber-in-law's moutb. " -"How do you like keeping bees? Fine, we don't get honey, but bees have stung my motber-in-law several times. " -"I want you to know your dog bit my mother-in-law. He did? I suppose you want to sue me. Not at ail. I want to know bow mucb you want for the dog. " Mother-In-Law A Scapegoat? Psycboiogists feel that, to the extent strong feelings agaînst motbers-in-law are stili barbored, tbe unfortunate ladies are possibly being used as scapegoats. The cumula- tive hostilities of sons and daugbters towards tbeir mothers, wbich were repress- ed by cultural sentimentali- zation of mothers, may be piied upon motbers-in-law, some psycbologists state. A common stereotype of motbers-in-law in the role of grandmotbers is that tbey spoil the baby. This is done by picking up the infant when it cries; presenting too many gifts; cballenging the parent's autbority,ý and general pampering. The facts contra- dict tbese criticisms, accord- ing, to FTD. "The feeling that she can't win is widespread among motbers-in-law. Sbe is repre- sented as baffled, bewildered and bitter because anytbing she does is misconstrued. If Need Funds for Housing Fred McLaughlin Claims "We need a real commit- ment to putting good and affordable housing withîn the reacb of ail Canadians," Fred McLaughlin, NDP candidate, Durham Northumberland, said today. "The Tory proposai to make' interest payments on mortgages tax deductîble wouid mainly benefit higher incnme earners and would not benefit tbose wbo rent their accomodation at all. I believe it would also drive the cost of hous ing and initiai down payments up and would probably iead to an increase in property taxes and higber mortgage rates., "What we need is more funds for bousing which must be spent wisely. We need 4costrctin f more non- profit and co-op housing and the building of more good quaiity rentai accomodations. We need public assembly of land so that speculators do't get rich from the pockets of Canadian familles needing hou9ing. If we plan carefully we can guarantee affordabie housing in Canada." Area Children Win Prizes In Elmer Safety Mystery Game Several area young people have won prizes in the Elmer Safety Elephant Mystery Game that appeared in both The Canadian Statesman and The Newcastle Independent during the summer. Unfort- unately, their addresses were flot included in the announce- ment of winners. In Contest number 1, Joanna Mulder won second prize, for 6-7 year olds, and Niels Walkau came second in the 12-14 year-old category. In Contest 2, Elsa Buma came 2nd in 12-14 year old class. In Contest 3, Jaymie Campbell came second in 6-7 year old class and Karen Kyte came 2nd for 8-9 year olds. Julia Fager came second in she leaves her son and daughter-in-law alone, she is called neglectful. If she is nice to them, she is two-faced. If she appears interested in their activities, she's meddling," FTD notes. But a new image may begin emerging with the celebration of Mother-In+law's Day. Aspiring for the ultimate, FTD says it hopes most men and women will soon echo the views of a Colorado resident, who rapsodized: "A good mother-in-Iaw is a treasure without price. In- deed, for a successful marriage the most important thing, besides a good wife, is a good motber-in-law -- and I'm not sure which of the two is more essential." the 10-11 year oid cîass. There were . three area winners of second prizes in Contest 4, Kirsten Williams in the 6-7 year aid class; Bill Mosienko in the 10-11 year old class and Irene Fayer i the 12-14 year oid classà. Local Music'al Groups Put Lungs to Good Use A really good night out with Association's anu a chance to support a worthy Christmas Seai Campaign i cause will be provided by Durham Region. Ail proceed seven of Durham Region's wiil go to the Christmas Sea most talented musical groups, Campaign, which fund at 7:30 p.m. on Saturday, research into respiratotý October 29th at Eastdale diseases, and also providi Collegiate, Harmony Road sucb local communîit North, Oshawa. programs as this summer' Harry McKew will host the Day Camp for Asthmati County Town Singers, General Chiidren at Camp Samac Mators Choir, Ilarion Better Breatbing Courses fi Ukranian Dance Ensemble, empbysema and bronchiti Loreley Folk Singers and patients, Smoking Withdrawa Dancers, Oshawa Barber- Clinics and free film ai shoppers and Sweet Adelines, literature services. 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