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2 The Canadian Statesman, Bowmanville, May 27,1987 Section Two Good Market for Student Job-Hunters Sometimes it Pays to Shop Around, Counsellor Says by Lloyd Scott A long-time friend has repeatedly repeatedly told me that he finds it very disagreeable going to his doctor, whom he's been consulting for 20 years. He feels misunderstood misunderstood and slighted. He doesn't trust him. I used to suggest that he shop around for another physician, someone with whom the chemistry would be better. I don't do that anymore. He would only remonstrate with me, arguing that he's invested a lot of time and energy in this particular relationship relationship and he's not going to give up on it now. Aside from the obvious moral that you shouldn't offer advice because you may end up having to defend defend it in a heated argument, argument, there's the other point that lots of us are trapped trapped in various undesirable, even painful connections with other people. Perhaps because we don't know how to get out, we've partially convinced ourselves that we don't want to get out. Connections such as this one abound. I remember that my wife and I went to a dentist in Toronto, long after we'd moved into the country. That would have been okay, I guess, if we'd been satsified. But we weren't. We returned often to the city for minor adjustments, adjustments, small but aggravating aggravating pains, little things that bothered us about the work he'd done at the previous appointment. I'm embar- rased to say that we did this for a long time before we decided decided to check out the local dentists in hope that we might be better satsified. Our rationalization was simple. We liked this Toronto Toronto dentist very much as a person. We enjoyed talking talking to him, he enjoyed talk ing with us. We should have cultivated him as a friend and stopped taking our teeth to him for inspection and repair. However, even the most perverse rationalizations rationalizations can break down eventually as this one did in the face of time and money realities. Despite good reasons for shopping around, people tend to stay with the same garage mechanic, plumber, carpenter, electrician, the same grocery and drug stores, even the same friends. I recall the acquaintance of mine saying, "I'm tired of spending time with friends I don't really like." How's that for a poignant complaint? complaint? If anyone suggested that, occasionally she might decline to see these friends of hers, she'd be irate. For my sake, I hope she doesn't need people around whom she can secretly dislike. Each of us is in a human relationship with many peoplw, some by choice, others not. My friend, who, doesn't like some of her friends, apparently feels trapped. She may be hanging hanging on to them out of loneliness, loneliness, afraid that other, bet ter friendships won't be there for her. Many of us have chosen to live our lives at a certain level of unhappiness because: because: change is frightening; frightening; we're convinced that nothing better is available to us; we would feel guilty if we were happier, or even less unhappy than we are; making new friends (or shopping around for a new plumber, doctor, lawyer, etc.) is time-consuming hard work; ii's better to keep the not very good connections connections we do have than to leave them and risk making worse ones. Most of us have such low opinions of ourselves that asking ourselves for any improvement improvement in our lives is somehow immoral and against God's law. That's one side of the story. Another side is often brought home to me in my work, particularly with couples. One partner may ask him or herself, "Why have I stayed in this miserably miserably unhappy marriage for so long?" The eventual answer answer is usually something like this, "Because I'm in a human relationship, a relationship relationship with another person with whom I've shared my life." A close, intimate intimate connection is hard to break. And so it must always always be. Ending, terminating, saying saying goodby arc like destroying destroying and tearing down. It means we have to begin again. Most of us don't want to say goodbye, let lone to shop for something better, more suitable. Shopping and looking around can be a way of raising raising our expectations for ourselves. Besides, some times it's a good idea to look for something better, in order to gain perspective and courage to demand and work for improvements in what we've got. Lloyd Scott is a Marriage and Family Counsellor in private practice in the Orono Medical Centre and in Oshawa. He welcomes letters from readers. Please feel free to write him in confidence, confidence, c/o The Statesman, Box 190, Bowmanville, Ont. L1C 3K9 Eldorado Employees Earn Certificates Several employees of the Eldorado Nuclear Plant received certificates recently for successfully completing a millwright course. The course was provided by Durham College to enhance the skills of employees. Those people who received certificates are: David C. Baker, David R. Baker, Ross Clarke, Arthur Ward, Milton Elliott, Gordon Lang, Ross Cornelius, Edward Dhaene, John Foster, Robert Robertson, Fred Holmes, Michael Hayward, Eric Bernard, Robert Gzik, Gord Pearce, Ron Peters, Terry Nixon, Yance Richter and Allen Fletcher. The millwright course was run by the Management Centre at Durham College with training provided on site at the Eldorado Nuclear Plant. Canada Farm Labour Pool's Walter Piersma (left) and the Student Employ- . ..ment Centre's Jeff Simser (centre), confer with a summer job-seeker at Bowmanville Bowmanville High School, May 20. They were there to register students who didn't have summer jobs lined up yet. by Jeff Hubbell For a student, getting a summer job can be a job in 1 itself. Depending on-lhe state of the local economy, chances of finding work during the summer vary widely. Some • summers, student^ find themselves just about beg- •- ging for menial tasks, while at other times, they have to decide which job to choose. Fortunately for summer job hunters in the region ■ this year, the prospects are hot bad. In fact, some em- ployers are scrambling to • get who they can. ; "The market's pretty ;; good," says Jeff Simser of •• the Student Employment Centre in Bowmanville, - "especially if you have r some mobility. University students usually have • higher (salary) expecla- lions, which is understandable. understandable. They really need the money. But we find high school students more realistic when it comes to wages." £.' . Both the federal and pro- |i vincial . governments - offer . student employment during - the summer, but they usu- ' . ally require that the stu- , - dent apply as early as January January or February until early April, so "most of them have gone by the board by now," adds Jeff, himself a university university student. "There are jobs available if you're willing to work," says Deanna Vivian, also of the Student Employment Centre. "Right now, for • example,- we're trying to find people to landscaping b work." She estimates that approximately 400 students have registered with the Centre this year. Last year, , 500 students registered for 600 placements. Because some of the jobs were of short duration, the number of placements was higher than the number of employees. employees. Much of the work is in service-oriented jobs such as restaurant work. Usually, Usually, the pay is minimum wage -- $4.35 an hour if you're over 18, $3.50 an hour if you're under. Deanna Vivian believes that this year's crop will find work. Speaking of crops, the Canadian Farm Labour Pool is also seeking students students for summer work on local farms. Like Vivian, Labour Pool representative Walter Piersma believes that employment is available available for those who are willing willing to work. "Last year, every student who came through this office office got a job," he says. "It's good work, out in the fresh air. A lot of students really like that." Another option for students students over-the age of. 17 is the- Ontario Regiment in Oshawa. They offer, a 10- week program in.which students students learn to operate Canadian Forces weaponry and some of their vehicles. If the student likes the Regiment, Regiment, he or she can stay on after summer part-time. The pay is between $2,000 and $2,500 for the 10-week duration. - According to Bowmanville High School student Bryan Beatty, who works at Miracle Miracle Food Mart, but is looking looking for extra work during the summer, the students are for the most part, optimistic. optimistic. " "Most of them are confident they'll find something," he HAMILTONS INSURANCE SERVICE Main St., Orono SERVING YOUR INSURANCE NEEDS FOR 35 YEARS Susan Sawyer 983-5767 Nelda Dawson 623-4835 says. "They (the Student Employment Centre) found me a job last year, but I'd already found my job at Miracle, so I didn't take it." Hydro Highlights The- principle of reliable power at cost under which Ontario Hydro was created 80 years ago remains its number one priority, Chairman Chairman Tom Campbell said recently recently as the corporation's 1986 annual report was tabled tabled in the legislature. "That commitment to service service and satisfaction has been part of our tradition, and absolutely vital to our success, right from the very beginning." Campbell said. "In order to maintain that commitment, we must continue continue to stay in touch and respond to the changing needs of our customers Campbell said. "As the needs of our customers customers continue to change, so does the role of Ontario Hydro, O said President Robert Franklin. "Today, customer .satis?, faction depends on our abil: ity to provide an electrical • energy service that not only improves working and living living conditions, but also reduces reduces electricity bills and energy consumption," Franklin said. "With the emphasis on energy efficiency, the utility utility is working toward becoming becoming as much an energy consultant as an electricity producer and distributor," he added. During 1986, demand for electricity in Ontario increased increased by 3.7 per cent. 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