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i The Canadian Statesman, Bowmanvillc, January 13, 1988 Canadian Club Members Know There is a Santa Claus Ed Leslie (centre), was the guest speaker at the latest meeting of the Bowmanville Men's Canadian Club. With Mr. Leslie are Charlie Trim (left) former chairman of the Bowmanville Santa Claus Parade Committee and Don McGregor, President of the Bowmanville Bowmanville Men's Canadian Club. Mr. Leslie spoke of the 26-year history of the Santa Claus Parade and also discussed his role as the parade's Santa Claus -- a job he has held from the second year of the parade until last November when he retired from the role. Few people are as well qualified to talk about Bow- manville's Santa Claus Parade as is Santa himself. And at last week's meeting meeting of the Bowmanville Men's Canadian Club, Santa (cleverly disguised as long time Parade Committee member Ed Leslie) discussed discussed the history of the parade. The Canadian Club met Wednesday, January 6, in the St. Paul's United Church. As well as reviewing the parade's history, Mr. Leslie also talked about the role of Santa Claus, a part he has played in the Bowmanville. Santa Claus Parade for the past 25 years. Recalling the early days of the parade, Ed Leslie noted that in 1961, the very first parade was formed by "an, elfish character by the name of Carson Elliott". He noted that these early parades were due, in large part, to Mr. Elliott's efforts along with the backing of the local Kiwanis Club and assistance from the Belleville Belleville Fire Department from which several floats were borrowed in the early years. "Then different groups and communities all around the town -- communities communities such as Hampton, Tyrone, Enniskillen and Courtice as well as service clubs such as Lions, Rota- rians, Kinsmen, Knights of Columbus, Orange Lodges, Cubs and Scouts all started to build floats with the assistance assistance of the Float Chairperson Chairperson Ede Cole," said Mr. Leslie. The parade averaged about 100 entries and floats per year. "From the first day the parade was organized, the "HAPPY NEW YEAR" Pamela and Joanne invite you to SAVE this JANUARY and FEBRUARY with their $20.00 PERM (includes Free Styling) or $5.00 HAIRCUT PAMELA'S HAIR-U-WEAR 623-1915 (Above Brother's Pizza) 36 King St. E. Bowmanville basic rule was no advertising advertising on the floats. The rule still applies. The only advertising advertising you get is on the official program which is distributed on the day ofthe parade by the people selling selling Santa Claus Parade buttons," Mr. Leslie said. Mr. Leslie recalled that Dr. Howard Rundle was the parade's first Santa Claus. The next year Carson EL liott convinced Ed Leslie (after about three hours of persuasion) that he should be Santa. The guest speaker told the Canadian Club that he initially had his doubts about accepting the task. But, a few weeks later, after purchasing a red suit and trimmings for $150, hé was committed to the role. The next step was to make an extensive study of the character known as Santa Claus, i Mr. Leslie shared • with his audience a number of secrets for being a successful successful Santa. One rule is never to promise children everything they ask for because because one is not always aware ofthe circumstances of each family. Instead, Santa promises to "leave something nice under the tree on Christmas Eve." In recalling the early days of the parade, the guest speaker pointed out that the founders of the event had very little money in the committee's budget but a great deal of enthusiasm; . A lot of hard work by a dedicated dedicated core of eight to 10 people ensured that the parade occurred each year without a hitch. Past chairmen chairmen of the parade have included included Carson Elliott, George Stephen, John Pogue and Charlie Trim. The current president is Don Welsh. Ed Leslie pointed outthat the Santa Claus float originally originally was created by the boys ofthe old Bowmanville Training School and staff. Unfortunately, the tires of the vehicle were not in good repair and although Santa's float never experienced a flat tire along the route, there were some close calls. Later, a donation of a set of Goodyear tires solved the problem permanently. There was another occasion occasion when the float was stored in a barn on the Ayren Lee Golf course. And organizers who inspected the vehicle a few weeks before before the parade discovered that it had been thoroughly "decorated',' by pigeons. Again, parade committee members including George Stephen, John Pogue and Mr., Leslie worked to redecorate redecorate the float. And, with some cleaning and painting, painting, Santa's vehicle was once again ready for the road. Recalling the parades of Christmases past, Mr. Leslie Leslie noted that there have been only two windy parades and one wet one. "The cold and snow, you can handle," explained Mr. Leslie. Leslie. But he noted that the rain and the wind tend to spoil the floats. The parade held last November November will, however, go on record as being the coldest one to date. "In closing, I would like to say thankyou to the Santa Claus Parade Committee for doing a tremendous job for the community and especially Mrs. Ede Cole PRE INVENTORY CLEARANCE SALE ! ÿ vÇqvi* §: * Remnants Galore To Suit Your Floor! * Drop in and make arrangements fora no obligation estimate! 1405 King St. E., Oshawa, Ont. Just east of Townline Rd. Mon., Tues., Wed. and Sat. 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Thurs. and Fri. 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. who has been a tower of strength and a very conscientious conscientious worker and has been in charge of floats for the past 25 years." "I have heard the odd lime that the Santa Claus Parade is not needed and costs too much money," Mr. Leslie observed in his concluding concluding remarks. "I would just like to say to these Scrooges that they should climb up on Santa's float and see all the happy laughing children blowing kisses to Santa and shouting T love you, Santa.' Then, if they can still say it's not worth it, maybe we should stop." New President For University Of Guelph Dr. Segal, who will succeed succeed President B.C. Matthews, Matthews, has been president of Ryerson Polytcchnical Institute Institute since 1980. "He brings scholarly achievements, achievements, proven leadership abilities, and well-developed well-developed administrative skills which arc essential assets in meeting the challenges challenges of the future," Mr. Bovey says. Born in Montreal, Brian Segal graduated from McGill with a B.Sc. in 1964. He received a Master of Social Social Work degree from Yeshiva University in.New York, M.Sc. (Public Health) and Ph.D. (Social Welfare) from the University of Pittsburgh. Under his leadership, Ryerson experienced major changes in academic direction. These included a shift from diploma to de- • grec studies, the establishment establishment of an office of research research and innovation, a centre for industrial development, development, an innovation centre, an international development development centre and a $15- million Ryerson/govern- ment/industry centre for advanced technology education. education. Dr. Segal came to Ryerson from Carleton University in Ottawa where he was an associate associate professor in the School of Social Work. Before Before that he was senior policy policy adviser to the National Museums of Canada, and earlier - acting director of the Strategic Planning Branch of the Department of the (Secretary of State, .Government of,Canada. Dr. SegiU If sought nationally nationally as a senior policy consultant consultant on social policy and telecommunications. He recently recently organized and chaired the first national forum on post-secondary education in Saskatoon, considered by many observers observers to be a significant step toward establishing a national national agenda for post-secondary post-secondary education and research. research. He has published widely in the areas of communications communications a social welfare. welfare. He is currently chairman of the national innovations advisory committee of the federal government's Department Department of Employment and Immigration, chairman ofthe communications committee committee ofthe Council of Ontario Ontario Universities, and a member of several boards of directors including IBM Canada and the YMCA of Metropolitan Toronto, and a member of the board of governors of the Institute of Canadian Bankers. Dr. Segal is married to Bunny Segal and has three children. He was selected by a presidential selection committee made up of representatives representatives from the University University of Guelph board of governors, faculty, students and professional staff. Dr. Brian Segal, 44, will become the fifth president and vice-chancellor of the University of Guelph, September September 1, 1988. Your Spouse Can't be Your Therapist by Lloyd Scott "Not another column on marriage!" you say. "Haven't you written enough about marriage lately?" I admit it's on my mind these days. People keep bringing it to my attention. So, I think a great deal about the holy state of matrimony. matrimony. (I appologize for the she/ he, hers/his in this piece. Here, it's necessary.) "There's nothing wrong with our marriage. And there's nothing wrong with me. It's her/him. She/he is the one who needs to be fixed. So help me, it's true. "She/he has an attitude problem, a bad attitude towards towards me as well as the children. children. Neighbours, friends, family, everybody says the same thing. It's not just me that says it. "Don't get me wrong. I'll do anything I can to support her/him in getting help. Believe Believe me, she/he needs it badly. Naturally, I want to see her/him get better." The person speaking is looking for marriage counselling. counselling. She/he is also giving the counsellor the benefit of her/his diagnosis, indicating indicating clearly who the problem problem is. The marriage counselling counselling is for that partner, who's seen as the problem. Counselling is being prescribed prescribed for the partner, not for the marriage, even though the one doing the prescribing is the one who's unhappy with the way things are going. • We all suffer from much the same myopic condition in varying degrees. When my wife and I have an argument, argument, my first gut feeling is likely to be that it's her fault. With equal conviction, conviction, she probably believes it's mine. Second thoughts may occur to us after the argument, argument, an hour or a week later. The sooner the better, or we get mired in more argument. argument. Second thoughts are a time for reflection and reconsideration. reconsideration. They're a time to look back calmly and wonder what really happened, how come things aren't going so well these days. Many individuals are self- appointed psychotherapists psychotherapists to their partners (and to their children as well, but that's another story). It's a common and dangerous practice. Does the following sound familiar? "You're jealous, that's your problem." "You're paranoid. There's nothing to be afraid of. I wish you'd talk to somebody about your fears." "You're just like your mother/ father. You're screwed' up the same way!" This last amateur diagnosis diagnosis from a wife or husband husband is one of the bad ones. It's so infuriating to most people that it calls for retaliation retaliation in kind. "You're even worse than your mother/father. That's the trouble with you!" One hard-working diagnostician/therapist diagnostician/therapist in a marriage is bad enough. When both spouses are each other's diagnostician/ therapist in emotional matters, matters, they may have a recipe for lots of on-going trouble. If your spouse is determined determined to be your personal psychotherapist, fire him or her. Only you can do it. The role of resident therapist has several benefits benefits to the person who plays it. It's a thin disguise for the satisfaction of exercising exercising power and control. It's a way of showing concern concern (real or fake, take your choice) while remaining distant, uninvolved and blameless, especially if the marriage is failing. "You have (are) the problem," problem," means "I'm innocent." All the burden is on the spouse who permits the partner to be therapist. Theirs is the blame. They've been identified as the problem. problem. However, some married partners are prone to take the blame anyway, for what- ever's going down in the relationship. relationship. What about them? Undoubtedly, they do have a problem (rather than are the problem). And it's made worse by partners who are equally prone to seeing seeing the other as wrong and to blame, and themselves as right and innocent. The one spouse avoids looking at his/her intenal problems, unprepared or unable to learn what those problems are and to take responsibility responsibility for them. The other exaggerates his or her internal problems (or, worse still, invents them), conditioned to seeing blame and the martyr's role as their unhappy but unavoidable unavoidable lot. Many such couples play out this balanced, complementary complementary but uncomfortable uncomfortable danefe right to the grave. Others learn to break down their conditioning and learn a new dance, a new way of being together. Unfortunately, there's no quick, efficient solution for this marital conundrum. But there are several recommended recommended directions .in which to move. One is for partners to look hard at the emotional baggage each one has brought into the marriage. In the example above, one partner needs to look at the ingrained tendency to avoid marital responsibility by blaming the other, a tendency tendency apparently common to husbands. The other needs to look at an ingrained ingrained tendency to be a doormat, accepting blame inappropriately and feeling guilty, a tendency apparently apparently common to wives. I say "ingrained" because such tendencies usually pre-date the marriage. To begin to assume individual responsibility for those internal internal hangups, whatever they may be, clears the air. Responsibility will begin to replace blame. Lloyd Scott is a Marriage and Family Counsellor in private practice in Oshawa and the Orono Medical Centre. He welcomes letters letters from readers. Please feel free to write in confidence confidence to Handlingltc/oThe Statesman, PO Box 190, Bowmanville, Ont., L1C 3K9 anil Blatant Bast 50 -Years Ago Thurs., Jan. 6,1938 A. W. G. Northcutt was installed installed last vyeek as Worshipful Worshipful Master of Jerusalem Lodge A.F. and A.M. The Lodge was founded in Bowmanville Bowmanville in 1849. Reverend Sidney Davison, Davison, Pastor of Trinity United Church, delivered a stirring New Year's message message to members ofthe Bowmanville Bowmanville Rotary Club on Friday. C.G.Ted Morris was elected Deputy Reeve of Bowmanville Bowmanville last Monday, defeating Sidney Little by 19 votes. 25 Years Ago Wed., Jan. 9,1963 Engineers estimate it will cost an estimated $110,400 to install sewers, water- main and bridge to service the new Industrial Area in Bowmanville. The new A. & P Food Store in Bowmanville, corner of King and Liberty Streèts, will open for business business on February 1. The annual Mothers March of Dimes will take place in Bowmanville on January 29. Chief Marching Mother is Mrs. Ozzie Williams, Williams, and Campaign Chairman Chairman is Mrs. Ray Lathangue. Fire Destroyed 25 tons of tobacco that took first prize in Ontario this year, in a fire at the home of grower George Van Dam of Pon- typool. 10 Years Ago Wed., Jan. 11,1978 The in-town bus system for Bowmanville was abandoned abandoned by the Town of Newcastle Newcastle council Monday night. The decision was supported supported by all members of council except Bowman- ville's two representatives, Bob Dykstra and Don Allin. In the 16 days the bus operated, operated, $30.90 was the revenue received while costs were $684. Mr. and Mrs. Fred J. Wright, Martin Road and daughter Beth were the lucky winners of $10,000 in a recent Wintario draw. 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