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I \ * l 2 The Canadian Statesman. Bowmanville, March 9.1988 Section Two Courtice Guide Receives All Round Cord _ Natasha Bal, a member of the First Courtice Guides, was awarded her All- Kound Cord February 17th. Her family attended the award presentation. Pictured Pictured above are Mr. and Mrs. Franz Bal and their daughter, Natasha. Handling It... b ? u °y d &■»« We all know that most young people talk about themselves and their lives (and their parents) mainly to their peers. It's hard for them to talk to their parents and they don't want to try. Risk of misunderstanding and re- jecton is too great. We also know that most parents talk about themselves themselves and. their lives (and their children) mainly to other other adults, mostly other parents. parents. They don't know what, to say to their children and don't expect to be listened to. A common problem in families is that the need to •talk and to speak our minds is more important to us than the desire to hear others. To listen, we have to set aside what we have to say. But, oh, that's so hard. When our need to be heard is urgent, we become hard of hearing. When no one is available to talk to at those urgent times, we may bottle it up inside. inside. Then we become really disabled. We can neither speak nor hear. Even more commonly, everybody in the family is talking and nobody's listening. listening. A dialog of the deaf. It's easy to talk and listen when there's plenty of agreement.- agreement.- In some families, agreement (read: politeness) is virtually enforced. Very. little of importance gets said when everyone's busy being nice and keeping the peace. There's still lots of talk in families about the need and the desire to talk and to be heard. It's a normal need to, clarify our thoughts and feelings. It's a need to say what's hard to say. There's also lots of talk in families about the need and the desire to hear what those who are close to us have to say. It's a need to understand and share what they're going going through in order to feel closer. Disagreeements and differences, differences, however, are what none of us want to hear. That's when we begin to resist resist and deny the other person's person's views and feelings. Unfortunately, Unfortunately, that's the point when, we stop listening and start trying to change! their feelings and reform 'their thoughts in line with ours. That v s when relationships begin to cool and grow distant distant or heat up and become dangerous. Disagreements and differences differences are hard to listen to sympathetically. They're also hard to express civilly, diplomatically and without blaming. Complaints, criticisms and disappointments rock the boat and disturb the' peace. However, such negative negative stuff can, with tact and good listening skills, be the source , of positive family changes. The family member who bottles it all up has probably learned that the rest of the family doesn't want to hear his negative comments. So, he or she has effectively fallen fallen silent. But the big enemy, the barrier of silence, can in most families, be overcome. Lloyd Scott is a Marriage and Family Counsellor in private practice in Oshawa and the Orono Medical Centre. He welcomes letters letters from readers. Please feel free to write in confidence confidence to Handling It c/o The Statesman, PO Box 190, Bowmanville, Ont., L1C3K9 IMPORTANT PUBLIC NOTICE DISTRICT HEALTH COUNCIL SEEKS RÉSIDENTS INTERESTED IN LOCAL HEALTH CARE SERVICES The Durham Region District Health Council is currently searching searching for residents of Durham, not employed in the delivery of health care services, to participate on Council and its standing committees, beginning in September '88. Council would like more input from the users of health care services. Expertise in the delivery of health care services is not required. Council is a voluntary, community health care planning body, appointed by Cabinet to provide advice to the Ontario Minister of Health. Monthly council meetings deal with the identification of needs, establishment of short and long term priorities and co-ordination of planning for the effective and efficient development development of health care services. Currently Ministry of Health expenditures expenditures in Durham Region exceed $200 million annually. Standing committee members are appointed by Council and meet 5 - 7 times per year. The committees include: Acute Care; Community Health; Long Term Care and Mental Health. If you are concerned about the quality of life in your community and are prepared to undertake the challenge of working towards towards achieving ongoing improvement in health care throughout throughout the Region, we invite you to apply for membership on Council or its committees. For application forms and further information contact: Durham Region District Health Council 40 King St. W., Suite 300 Oshawa, Ontario L1H 1 A4 (416) 433-4262 News from St. Stephen's Separate School For this edition we received received a lot of poems! We picked 2 of our favourites along with an editorial and an article. Our editors for this edition are Nazreen Perris, Perris, Lynda Ellis, Melinda Broome, Corissa Tilley, Denise Denise Lamondin. In our 7A room this term we wrote editorials to give our opinions on the world today. today. February 1,1988. To Whom It May Concern: Concern: I think abortion is wrong and unacceptable. My opinion opinion on abortion is that young girls have it so they won't look embarrassed and they want to keep it a secret so letters to the Ganaraska Staff for our super time in Febniary. We've also been making travel brochures in our process writing. On March 7th there will be a:, broomball tournament. Mr. Stapleton and Mr. Murdoch are the coaches. • by Mike Pot. Mrs. C's Class The kindergarten students students are working on a castle unit. The children paint, draw and play with a big castle. In the castle there are little toys such as: a princess, prince, king, horse men and some other toys. Yesterday the kids had a "balloon blast". On the blow of a whistle each child let go of their balloon. balloon. Each one had a card attached attached to it. On this card it asks when and where it was found, (the time and the date and the place). If you find a card please return to it to the school. by Carrie Jackson. Young At Heart On January 25 St. Stephen's Stephen's Grade 7's diverted and entertained young Grade 1 and 2's from St. Joseph's Joseph's with our childrens books from our Children's Literature unit. The children were put into groups with two grade sevens and listened listened to the story; then they wer given a copy of our stories stories to take home. The grade 7's obviously missed the younger ones since the grades at St. Stephen's start at grade 5. The children veiy much eiyoyed the books and the grade 7's whom they look up to, and so did we having them. Nazreen Perris Corissa Tilley a grade seven student poses here with her entertaining group from St. Joseph's. Spring Are you hoping that Spring will come soon? So the sun can shine from morning to noon? Living in the cold Makes the scenery so bold. Soon it will be Spring And the birds will begin to sing. And the weather will be so nice The shining sun will melt the ice. As the children skip and play The * % <jtt |W * *'<< look forward to the warmth that you will bring. Lynda Ellis St. Stephen's School Poetry Definition Poem Babies are... born small soft cute cuddly. School is... learning recess subjects work computers. By: Amanda Aasen and Kimberly Bouwhuis. My Brother. My brother is Cute Funny Scary Nice Adorable That's my brother. By Tammy Cosgrove Gr. 6A June One day in the middle of June, Ipopped a little balloon, Tne balloon went pop, pop, slop, slop, the boor little balloon, by Tammy Cosgrove Gr. 6. ley will be wearing smiles every day. So hurry up Spring, We K ONI Y BOWMANVIUF OSHAWA rK'> -L OF Al F R NGV A R MOTORS LIMITED 1428 KING ST. E„ OSHAWA NOW OPEN SATURDAYS 5 723-1175 "J 723-1176 5 Como soo Robert Bennett Ron Peters Lyle Smith Terry Peters or Ted Whitmq Ask your neiqhbor why they Imuqht their new r .ii from Kinciv.n Motors A Message to the Readers of ïnteptuteit t From the Canadian Community Newspapers Association: i " • ■•;■' '-Ft- •" "The price increase of 10.5 percent January 1 this year and a probable further increase of 10 percent July 1 of this year represents a 21 percent increase in one year. " i "The Kapuskasing (Ont.) Northern Times noted the January 1 price increase was the second increase since April 1 and that "in that 18 month period the cost of newsprint has risen by 18 percent." 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