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l 6 The Canadian Statesman, Bowmanville, August 1,1990 Handling It... by Lloyd Scott Dunnville Flyers Hold "Quiet Cries" is a short, powerful play about suicide. The plays theme is attempted attempted suicide and the thoughts and feelings that . precede it. The author, Elizabeth Elizabeth Blake, wrote the play to heighten awareness of the extent and seriousness of the problem. Three characters, each in different circumstances and at different points in their lives, dramatize their personal personal struggles. Most of their talking is to themselves themselves about their conflict. Each wants to die. Yet, each wants to live. In each life, the inner dialog reaches the point of desperation, the moment of decision. "I want to die," I have nothing to live for," alternate alternate with, "I'm afraid to die," "I want to live." Questions Questions such as, "What's the point of living?" are answered answered by, "Nobody cares." In each of these three lives, • signals for help are given. In the beginning, when these "cries" are first formed in the minds of the suicidal person, they're so "quiet" as to be easily ignored. ignored. The cries may be changes in behaviour, such as preferring to be more solitary solitary than usual, increasing alcohol consumption, reaching reaching out to others but immediately immediately drawing back. The cries are ambivalent and contradictory "Help me." "Stay away." They may be hopeful, "Maybe he/she still cares," and. hopeless, "No one wants or needs me." Cries for help may be very indirect. As the determination strengthens to pull the trigger, trigger, swerve the car, take the pills, the suicidal person is likely to draw inward. Time for summoning help has past. One of the three main characters in the play is that of a woman in ner forties forties whose troubled marriage marriage and family life have embittered her. Serving as a counterpoint to her spoken inner dialog are her brief one-sided conversations with the desk clerk of the hotel where she's gone "to kill herself. She phones the desk to inquire if messages have been left for her. She hopes in vain that the clerk may have tried unsuccessfully to reach her while she was on the phone to someone else. There are no messages. Her little arguments with the clerk about "checkout time" are for her a way of saying, "Please talk to me. I'm in trouble." The second main character character is that of a man in his forties in a bar. He has one drink after another to give him the courage to end his life, but also to delay the final final moment. In his futile attempts attempts to strike up a meaningful meaningful conversation with the waitress, his theme is "Farewell." "Farewell." As he tries to say good- bye-to the waitress, to his life, to the world-he's also trying to say, "Won't someone someone listen? Won't someone try to stop me?" His particular particular dialog with himself leads More Than 1,200 Drown Annually Across Canada Recreation aquatic accidents accidents account for over 1,200 fatalities annually in Canada. Canada. This is more than the number of fatalities associated associated with air disasters, commercial shipping tragedies tragedies and rail disasters combined. combined. Highest at risk are males - accounting for 85% of the total. In fact, in the 15-49 year old age group, nine out of ten drowning victims are male. One-third of drownings involve power boats, usually small crafts under 18 feet in length with flat or rounded bottom and, tragically, more than 50% of all boating fatalities fatalities involve alcohol. Don't become n drowning statistic. Bo WATER SMART and listen to the Royal Life Saving Society Canada Water Smart advice: advice: 1. WEAR YOUR LIFEJACKET LIFEJACKET OR PFD PFDs arc now stylish, comfortable and practical, and are available for all ages and various aquatic activities. activities. Your PFD is the best "life insurance" policy afloat. Remember, when boating, PFD's have to be Department of Transport approved in orange, yellow or rod. ?.. LEARN TO SWIM There is no substitute for swimming skills. Loan how. Don't exceed your ability and whatever you do, supervise supervise youngsters nround the water. 0.TII1NK BEFORE YOU DRINK Too much nlcohol impairs your ability to think, watch out. You could end up in the drink. Bo WATER SMART and play snfo in, on and near the water this summer. him to behind the wheel of his car, beyond help. The third main character is that of a young man in his late teens, confused and unhappy unhappy about his unresolved sexual feelings. As his "Yes, No" inner conflict progresses, progresses, he speaks to his mother intermittently from behind the closed door of his room. Needing privacy, he angrily tells her to leave him alone. Tortured, and afraid to die, he also calls for help but too indirectly and quietly for her to hear. The play ends with each of these characters' lives frozen frozen in time, suspended at the moment of decision. The woman with her pills ready, the man with plenty of alcohol alcohol in his blood behind the wheel of his car, the teenager teenager with à gun to his head. The room clerk and the waitress, being too busy, haven't really listened. Even the mother, whom we believe believe wants to hear, fails to pick up the clues in her son's behavior. Some of us still believe that suicide is rare and isolated. isolated. Unfortunately, it's increasing, increasing, especially among younger people. And that touches us all. The larger meaning that "Quiet Cries" suggests is the need that we all feel to be listened to, heard .and understood. understood. Lloyd Scott is a marriage and Family Counsellor m private practice in the Oro- no Medical Centre and in Oshawa. He welcomes letters letters from readers. Write to him do The Canadian Statesman, P.O. Box 190, Bowmanville, Ontario. LlC 3K9. 44th Annual Re-union Professional Foot Care Service by qualified registered nurses For Home Appointment Call 623-9694 or 623-1510 Peter E. Heslin, LL.B. BARRISTER & SOLICITOR Family Law Real Estate 120 Waverley Rd., Suite 214 Bowmanville Telephone 623-5554 MERVYN B. KELLY Barrister and Solicitor Serving Bowmanville and area residents since 1968. 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