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Family Life Will be Changing Clarke H.S. Report «/ O O The Future Starts ness and understanding of for Death" follows! by Laura J. Richards Family life in the nineties is going to be a far cry from life as depicted in the old "Leave It To Beaver" TV series. series. That's the view of Marlene Marlene Oatman, a lecturer in the department of family studies at the University of Guelph. Using excerpts from a variety variety of family sitcoms including including Leave It To Beaver, Who's The Boss, Cosby, Moonlighting, 30 Some- Oatman, the traditional family roles reign over all. Mr. Cleaver is the head of the house, the breadwinner and protector of his family. Mrs. Cleaver takes care of her family by cooking, cleaning, cleaning, doing tne laundry and waiting on them. She is rarely called on to play the role of an advisor in her family's life and activities. This type of family life still exists today, but not in the same numbers it did 40 years ago. Today, only eight thing, and a ÔBC production P er cent of Canadian fami called Dual Earner Fami- hesfall into this category. Iipq cVio dpmnnfltrntpr} Television has beer lies, she demonstrated three models families fall into. Ms. Oatman was keynote speaker at the Family Relationships Relationships in the Nineties Forum held at Bowmanville High School Dec. 12. She spoke to about 350 Family Studies students, discussing how family life is now ana how it may be in the future. Family relationships, she said, are changing to meet the challenges placed upon them by both parents working working in the labor force. Communication, said Ms. Oatman, can help parents meet these challenges head on. Television continues society's society's views through shows depicting family life. In Leave It To Beaver, said Ms. Television has been changing to reflect the changes in thinking and in some ways has tried to foretell foretell how society will think. There are three models to describe today's families, Ms. Oatman said. These show that not all two-parent families are the same. They face challenges which families 40 years ago did not have to deal with. "On one extreme of the line you will find two parents parents who are egalitarian. They share family care and work," said Ms. Oatman. "Very few relationships fit this model in real life. These relationships rate high satisfaction satisfaction levels with both home-life and work for partners." partners." Only a couple of the film clips viewed by the students depicted this type of family. They included Thirty Something, Something, Cosby and the Dual Earner Families documentary documentary from CBC. Within the short clips, Ms Oatman said both parents were shown in advisory positions, and child care situations. They shouldered shouldered equal responsibilities for their careers and their lives at home. Partners in a more traditional traditional lifestyle -- the Leave It To Beaver style -- believe in the same values and gender gender roles that society has taught them. • In other words, the Father/husband Father/husband goes to work to make money to provide for his wife and family. He is the protector of the family and the household maintenance maintenance man. He does not provide provide for more than the occasional occasional child care activities, and rarely strays from the role he has been taught. Women, on the other hand, provide 24-hour per- day, seven-day per week child care. They prepare the meals, clean the house, and do the laundry. The third model which straddles the fence covers most families. "The women are more egalitarian in their attitudes than the men in their relationships, relationships, and have different The Canadian Statesman, Bowmanville, December 19, 1990 15 50th Anniversary Celebrated , x < v • > > •*?; •• 'Li Approximately 350 students participated in a forum on family values and relationships relationships which took place at the Bowmanville High School on Wednesday, December December 12. Marlene Oatman (right), a lecturer at the University of Guelph, was the keynote speaker. With her is Doreen Cripps, chairperson and co-ordinator of the Family Studies Subject Council Forum. sr May the beauty of this season renew each heart with hope. DYKSTRA'S DELICATESSEN FOOD MARKET 77 King St. W. 623-3541 Bowmanville expectations." With many relationships on this portion of the line, there are conflicts that are hard to resolve. Some women are angry because they're in the work force and, after a full day at work, they then go home and have to work another full day at night to take care of their families. Men are angry at feeling threatened because their traditional roles are being thrown over. Because they are angry with each other and not communicating, relationships relationships quickly break down. "We were all so well socialized socialized to fit into set roles that it is difficult to not want them," said Ms. Oatman. Oatman. "We don't have the wonderful recipes like we used to. It used to be that it was all so well set out for us," the guest speaker explained. explained. "Everything was so clearly clearly laid out." Now most of those recipes are invalid and have been cancelled out. Communication is what is needed to live up to the real potential that relationships relationships can reach in the. 1990s, Ms. Oatman concluded. concluded. Relationships, Ms." Oatman Oatman said, have the potential to be "exciting" in the 1990s as long as partners communicate communicate what is important to them and each other. Workshops Focus on Life In Nineties Family Studies students from Northumberland and Newcastle Board of Education Education schools were at the Bowmanville High School on Dec. 12 for a series of workshops workshops focusing on "Family Relationships in the Nineties." Nineties." Approximately 350 students students participated in 15 workshops prepared and presented by a number of experts requested by the planning committee. Some of the topics included included "cocaine babies", understanding understanding child abuse, crimeproofing, crimeproofing, coping with longterm longterm illness ana children of alcoholic parents. "Last year, students were asked what type of presentations presentations they would like to see," saild' 1 : Doreen Cripps, of Clarke High " School. She was the Planning Committee Committee Chairperson for the event. "We then spent the summer trying to locate the appropriate people to do the workshops." The committee has been planning the forum for the last one and one-half years. Mrs. Cripps, said the conference conference was successful. However, However, the next one probably won't happen for another twoyears. "The Subject Council only meets three times a year. Most of the February meeting meeting will be spent assessing the conference, so ' if we wanted to plan another one for next year we would have to start planning it in June," she said. "The conference took a lot of time to plan. But, of course, now we know what it takes to put one together." Workshops such as the one at BHS last week must also be approved by the Northumberland and Newcastle Newcastle Board of Education. Xmas Poem Santa's on his way, with toys on his sleigh. With a bear, a chair and dolls who care. The elves working hard for you everyday, While they take a minute to sit ana pray. In this world, there are little girls and boys, who have never seen toys. So lets make this Christmas Christmas fun this year, So everyone everyone will be happy with lots of cheer. By Elizabeth Persaud St. Stephen's Grade 5/6 The Future Starts Here From the Principal As 1990 winds down, Clarke High School is experiencing experiencing our annual holiday events. Last Friday, the staff and school student team played their annual hockey game. Unlike last year, the teachers' teachers' team won 5-4 in a very exciting game. The door decorating contest contest is under way with most classroom doors showing great imagination and interest interest on the part of the students. students. On Friday afternoon, we have what many students believe is the highlight of the school year. It is the Christmas Talent Assembly. Students and teachers showcase showcase their talent and imagination. imagination. Singers, dancers, musicians and the M.C. all practice long and hard to give a great finish to the last • afternoon of the school year. While all the planning and work goes on, the students students continue with their classes with new lessons up to the last day for when students students and staff retuirn on January 7, there are only two weeks of classes until the final examinations of the first semester. On behalf of the Music and Physical Education Departments, Departments, I wish to thank the community for buying the poinsettias. The profits from the sales help our co ness and understanding of the root causes of family violence." violence." Clarke Winners in Legion Writing Contest Clarke High School students students are among the winners winners in the annual Legion Remembrance Day Writing Contest. Jan Farrow is the second prize winner in the Senior Poetry division and received a plaque and a certificate certificate at a special presentation presentation held at Orono Public School on December 17. In addition to Jan's winning winning entry, several students were recognized for their writing skills. In the Essay Category, Patricia Dubeau and Eileen Beier received Honourable Mentions while Kristian Dart and Michele Rutherford were recognized for their poetry entries. A total of 63 children from 16 schools participated in the annuual Remembrance Remembrance Day competition. Students submitted poetry, essays and. posters, which were judged by teachers at the Centre for Individual Studies in Bowmanville.. Congratulations to Tracy Ruddell Tracy Ruddell, a grade nine student at Clarke High Schhol, was a finalist in a national competition sponsored sponsored by the Automotive Industry Industry with the financial support of Tele-Direct (Publications) (Publications) Inc. The Automotive Industry curricular programs. We do in Canada sponsors this pro appreciate all of your support. support. On behalf of all the stiu- dents and staff, I wish a Happy Holiday Season and the very best for 1991 to all the parents and friends of Clarke High School. Artists in Residence The Toronto-based theatre theatre company, Company of Si- gram to make "young people people more aware of all opportunities opportunities within the Automotive Automotive Industry in Canada." This year's topic was "The Responsible Driver." To be eligible, a school must enter a minimum of 25 essays with one designated as the school winner. This year, 135 schools entered a rens, continued their tour of total of 14,568 essays. all Northumberland and Newcastle High Schools by visiting Clarke High School on November 29, presenting their play, "Whenever I Feel Afraid." Die Ministry of Education Education recommended that this pilot project take place in N and N in recognition recognition of the Board's work in the area of family violence. The play deals with a group of teenagers and examine examine the roots of violence and sexism in their lives. According According to Marilyn Macintosh, Macintosh, Social Services Coun-' seller, the production, with discussions, afterwards, of- ' fers students "the chance to make connections: with any violence in the home, images of violence in the media and with their own experiences of jealousy and control in relationships. relationships. Both Marilyn and Crisis Counsellor Verna Shackleton report the play is being well received by students. students. "The follow-up discussions discussions in classrooms have been meaningful and have contributed to both our staffs and students' aware- New Director For Children's Service Council The Children's Services Council (Durham) is pleased to announce the appointment appointment of Joan Higginson, M.S.W., C.S.W. to the position position of Executive Director, effective January, 1991. Ms. Higginson has a wealth of experience as an advocate for children with special needs and their families in the Region of Durham. The C.S.C. (Durham) is a newly established agency that bas as its mandate coordination, coordination, advocacy, prevention prevention and planning for children with special needs and their families. It will incorporate the Case Coordination Coordination Program which has been so successful in locating locating and co-ordinating services services for hard to serve children. children. Members of the Board of Directors, who are senior Œ inel from the sectors of , education, mental health, child welfare and social social services, will manage the system of service delivery delivery in order to maintain and enhance the resources available available to children and families in the region. Tracy's entry, "Marked for Death" follows: "Marked for Death" Three friends, one big party and the topic that was forgotten -- responsible driving. They didn't have to worry about drinking and driving. Alcohol didn't affect them. It would never happ- pen to three young, ambitious ambitious teenagers. Their families families would never utter the words: "If only they hadn't been drinking..." It was only one night, a night that would never be forgotten. Many families have been in this unfortunate situation. situation. "The children should be educated," they say. No amount of teaching can rescue rescue a person from peer- pressure. In the end, it is the person's own individual decision. Parents scold, mentors mentors warn, but only experience experience teaches. "The house is only a few blocks away, and besides, who else will drive us? I've only had a few beers.!" Remember, there is always always a way out. Maybe you could make it home all right. You might, but what about innocent by standers? What about your family, your friends? Don't mess up other lives because of your mistake. mistake. Sometimes it's hard to resist resist drinking. Everyone's carefree and happy, it doesn't seem wrong at the time. When it comes time to drive home, just remember about responsible driving. If you're too drunk or forget about the danger, hopefully you have a friend who will remember to help you out. If you happen to be that friend, remember, don't let a friend drink and drive. Be responsible. Coming Events Dec. 24 - Jan. 7 - Christmas Christmas Holidays January 7 -1st Day Back Jim and Ada Rutherford, of Kirby, celebrated their 50th Wedding Anniversary on Monday, November 12, 1990. 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