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8 The Canadian Statesman 'Wu4ch4vi, Bowmanville, Saturday, January 23,1993 Handling It... By Lloyd Scott "Guider" Looks for Help To Support Leader Dogs There are two kinds of homelessness: homelessness: physical homelessness, the actual actual fact of being without a home, and psychological homelessness, the feeling feeling of being homeless regardless of having an adequate home and proper shelter. The homeless people who seek shelter in railroad stations and bus depots depots or use sidewalk grills over warm- air subway shafts for their bedding in cold weather are the tragically uprooted uprooted both economically and psychologically. psychologically. They're the people with no address address of their own and no anchor of any kind to help them bear the anxieties anxieties of their lives. ****** Similarly, a family evicted from its chologically homeless are harder to home, its furniture and belongings piled on the ' sidewalk, a bundle of helplessness for all the world to see, experiences an overwhelming sense of economic and emotional insecurity. The state of physical homelessness is also a state of psychological homelessness. homelessness. Psychological homelessness, however, however, is totally unrelated to the availability availability of a home. A person may live in a mansion or a penthouse, may have winter and summer homes, and still feel homeless. This sense of homelessness is experienced experienced painfully as a persistent emptiness within. The psychological homeless' are likely to be very self- absorbed, often unable to develop meaningful relationships or to find satisfaction in their work. They're often often prone to feeling fragmented, rather like scattered pieces of jigsaw puzzles which they can't put together. Some carry inside themselves a gnawing awareness of being alienated, isolated, unbearably alone. ^ ^ There may be no specific or single cause of psychological homelessness. It's likely the result of a cluster of causes. Childhood neglect, in any of its many forms, is certainly one. Inadequate Inadequate bonding experience in one's early years is another. Anxieties experienced experienced in rushing crowds of others, many of whom feel similarly alone, is another factor. Meaningless, unfulfilling unfulfilling employment further contributes to a sense of not belonging. The feeling of homelessness forces people to keep their distance from others, others, even in their own marriages and families. They guard against emotional emotional closeness because it frightens them and because they're incapable of giving giving or receiving affection. Home to the physically homeless is having a place where one can always go to be warm, dry, fed and reasonably reasonably safe. Home to the psychologically psychologically homeless means much more than a place. It means (or can mean) the primary primary network of relationships, the source of all emotions about ourselves and others. Emotionally, home is the safety island, the place where family members can retreat in-trust and confidence confidence and be comfortably themselves. There, they can be alone but still surrounded surrounded and embraced by their own, those who always care. "Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to let you in." It's also the place one goes to be loved and valued for who one is, de- see and much harder to help. They spite one's shortcomings. It's also the hide their unsatisfied need to belong, place where everyone gives love to They're everywhere and they're others, encouraging their self-respect among our most needy, and being encouraged in turn. At least most of the time. Many people of all ages have still not acquired much sense of emotional homencss, though they may live in a home. They're the disconnected ones without a feeling of belonging. For them the search is harder and life's risks are greater because they don't have a central emotional heating system system to comfort and strengthen them. The physically homeless we see and do something to help. The psy- You may have noticed a handsome The mandate of the organization i: dog sitting very quietly and proudly at to provide guide dogs to visually some of our local merchants recently, impaired Canadians. Thirty five guidt His name is "GUIDER" and he is part dog teams will be produced in 1992. of Canadian Guide Dog for the Blind's It takes almost two years before ; national dog bank project. He does not guide dog is ready to go home and star bark or make a fuss, but, he does ap- their real work as a guide dog anc predate a little pat on the head or a companion for someone. The first year cuddle, and, he can be fed coins of a dog's life is spent with a volunteer through the slot in his head. foster family, who raise him from a Guiders aire cared for by a team of pup into adolescence. Their job is to Part of this column has been adapt- volunteers headed by Elinor Robinson, take a pup into their home, give it ba- ed from an article by Zellig Bach in a newspaper I read regularly called Family Therapy News. ****** Lloyd Scott is a marriage and family family counsellor in private practice in Oshawa and in the Orono Medical Centre. He welcomes letters from readers. Write him in confidence at this newspaper, The Canadian Statesman, Statesman, P.O. Box 190, Bowmanville, Ont. L1C 3K9. anc Telephone Pioneers of America. sic house and obedience training They can be found at these great expose it to most situations it will en- community oriented ' businesses in counter later as a guide dog. Bowmanville: Canadian Tire Store, 2401 Highway 2, Grahams IGA Store, 225 King Street East and A&P Store, 185 King Street East. Canadian Guide Dogs for the Blind National Office and Training Centre is located in Manotick, Ontario. A branch office has recently been opened in Richmond, B.C. The next stage lasts six to eight months at the Canadian Guide Dog Training Centre, where professional Instructors train the dog to walk in harness harness and to avoid obstacles. The final stage is a month-long course where the visually-impaired client comes to the centre to leam how to handle and work with their guide dog. Yelverton Happenings By Harvey Malcolm Congratulations are extended to Dorothy and Gerald Bristow of Yelverton Yelverton on the birth of their first great- grandson and to Gary and Cathy Bristow Bristow of View Lake on their first grandson grandson "Michael Leslie" bom this week to their granddaughter and daughter respectively Wendy and her hubby Kevin Reid, in Port Perry Hospital. Naturally everyone is ecstatic at his safe arrival. On Saturday evening Marti and Jane Malcolm of Omcmec left home en route to a well deserved weeks holiday holiday in Cancun Mexico, Family members members arc currently taking turns babysitting babysitting their three children Dionne, Danielle and Devon. Happy Holiday! • V '. V, V 1 > I.».* RAKES REAR DRUM BRAKE PACKAGE Here's what we include: Motomaster brake shoes Machining drums (if required) Topping up brake fluid Complete inspection Most cars FRONT DISC BRAKE PACKAGE Includes: Motomaster disc pads Machining rotors and repacking bearings (if required) Topping up brake fluid Complete inspection Metallic linings extra ÊŒÜ ft JJjji Most cars TUNE-UP! MINOR COMPUTER ENGINE TUNE-UP 4 or L6 cylinder V6 or V8 cylinder We will perform an engine analysis, supply and install Motomaster spark plugs and make necessary adjustments ... 26 POINTS IN ALL! Some vans and conventional tune-up kit extra. Computer diagnostic fault-code analysis extra, if required. OIL CHANGE Up to 5L of NuGold Motor Oil will be Installed - Lubrication extra if required. THIS COUPON OFFER VALID ONLY WITH THE BRAKE or TUNE-UP SPECIAL LISTED ABOVE. Coupon has no cash value and must be presented when service is performed. Limit: one coupon per service. Vaid to February 28.1993. Appictible taxes (G.S.T.ZP.S.T.) will be applied to the after-coupon price. To our Associate Dealers: This is a non-reinbursable coupon. Please retain. lOBLEM! • NO MONEY DOWN! , • NO PAYMENTS FOR 90 DAYS! • NO INTEREST FOR 90 DAYS! on approved credit* Offer applies to all installed services in our Auto Centre and it covers parts and installation. Minimum invoice cost: $150. • Offer available only on your Canadian Tire Card. Full details of the credit charges, their calculation and terms of credit transaction may be obtained at your Canadian Tire store. ■ Not available on the Canadian Tire Commercial Card. 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