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* » V» IGA stores in Bowmanville, Newcastle and Orono will host a charity barbecue for Big Brothers and Big Sisters on Saturday, June 25th. Barbecues will take place at all three stores between 11 a.m. and three p.m. - IGA .will be supplying the food and volunteers from both the Big Brothers and Big Sisters agencies will contribute the personnel. Nancy Scott, executive director of the Big Brothers of Clarington, says the cook-out is taking place for the first time this year. But, organizers organizers hope it will become an annual event. They hope to raise $100,000 in Ontario to support the work of the Big Brothers and Big Sisters. Strawberry Season Starts Within Next Week or 10 Days The berries are coming! The recent heatwave is expected to advance the date on which the area's first strawberries should be ready for the table. Tom Clarke, Horticultural Advisor Advisor for the Ministry of Agriculture, Food, and Rural Affairs, said cool weather had delayed the berries. But the recent increase in temperatures should bring the harvest closer to the usual schedule. "I think we'll probably be in production production within seven to 10 days," he said in an interview Wednesday. However, he adds that conditions can vary from one farm to another. Strawberry pickers should phone their favorite pick-your-own farm for a better estimate of when the harvest will begin. There are 15 to 20 commercial strawberry growers in the Durham Region. Last week, a group of weary fathers rushed into Orchard Park Furniture, located in Downtown Bowmanville, when word was received that a large shipment of extremely comfortable La-Z-Boy chairs had just arrived. These desperate individuals are shown in the above photo, frantically choosing their favourite from the extensive collection in stock. When asked what they would like this year for Father's Day, they chomsed Canada Limited Sit Him Down! Slow Him Down! Calm Him Down! with a throne of his own for Father's Day. (Starting at only $399.00) 28 King St. W. Bowmanville's La-Z-Boy Headquarters 623-1131 Bowmanville © 12 The Independent, Canadian Statesman Weekender, Bowmanville, Saturday, June 18,1994 Handling It... By Lloyd Scott An acquaintance of mine, an apple grower, has developed a particular style of getting in his own way. Just before harvest time, the time to reap the gratifying results of his long labors, he starts to drink, a little more each day. Every year the same ritual delays the harvesting of the apples, apples, adding expense, labor, frustration frustration and irritability to what could be for him personally a time of fulfillment fulfillment and joy. Self-sabotage is a common human behaviour...To some degree, it's an indication of low self-esteem. Another friend of mine, a very creative, inventive person, often experiences experiences remarkable "brain-waves" in the early morning - moments of insight, insight, good business ideas, problem- solutions. As the day goes by, however, however, he gradually persuades himself that he would be unable to implement the idea. It's not the idea itself that he scrutinizes scrutinizes for its practical value, so much as himself that he analyzes. He always arrives at the same conclusion: conclusion: he disqualifies himself. Though the idea itself might still hold some value even in his thoughts, he discards discards it because, once again, he has Convinced himself that he could never never make it work. Self-sabotage is a common human behavior. At some point, often just short of victory, just before the completion completion of an important task, as the end of one's labor comes into view- that penultimate moment is the time that many people stop, withdraw their energies, abandon the task. Some diversion or other, more contrived contrived than real, provides the necessary necessary rationalization for giving up. Some individuals shoot themselves themselves in the foot often; some occasionally; occasionally; some do it only with major enterprises; some only with minor ones. Probably most people do it from time to time - postponing fun and the completion of tasks that promise gratification. This seeming anomaly, this peculiar peculiar irregularity may be more normal than abnormal. On the surface it appears appears to be a need to fail, a fear of success. To some degree, it's no doubt an expression and an indicator of our commonest emotional disability disability - low self-esteem. More precisely, the "need to fail", "fear of success" syndrome shows how strongly conditioned many of us have been by messages received in childhood. "You're dumb, stupid, worthless." "You'll never amount to much." "You just don't have the ability ability to succeed." And so on. With this kind of strong conditioning conditioning in place, it's normal and natural to work hard toward a goal. It's equally normal and natural to self sabotage those efforts. I know a successful accountant who lives an hour's drive north of Toronto and whose family life is stable and genuinely happy. Two or three times a month he drives to the, city and, throwing caution to the wind, picks up prostitutes. I've heard of another man whose wife was 8 1/2 months pregnant. Out of the blue, he took a trip to the Himalayas Himalayas to climb the highest, slipperiest slipperiest mountain there. That may be fiction. fiction. The accountant and many like him aren't. Perhaps we all wonder sometimes, as we catch a glimpse of men raking their leaves in the fall, their children playing around them in the warm sunshine, how such a desirable, happy happy life may contain an apparently inexplicable inexplicable and unspoken desire to place that happy life in jeopardy. These dark, internal ambushes are real, I assure you. There are those who simply can't sit comfortably in their lives anymore without conjuring a beast staring squarely at them, measuring them and holding out a vial, perhaps of arsenic, inviting them to place at risk their marriage and family, the very things that can protect protect them from the extremities of their nature. OWMANVILLE KINSMEN CARNIVAL "Bigger and Better Than Ever" j • Rides • Games • Fun • Family Times • Dunk Tank TALENT & KIDS SHOW Friday at 7 p.m. (weather permitting) FIREWORKS Saturday at 10 p.m. June 23 6-10 p.m. June 24 6-11 p.m. x June 25 11 a.m. -11 p.m. June 26 12-5 p.m. GARAGE SALE June 25, 8 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. June 26,8 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. Stilt Space Available $20.00 Two Days Bowmanville Rec Complex Corner Hwy. 2 and Hwy 57 © Desperate Local Fathers IGA Stores Will Host Charity BBQ