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Page 10 The ClaringtonZCourticc Independent, Bowmanvillc, Saturday, December 12, 1998 Your Guide To: Health, Hobbies and Entertainment s> i. Local Men Back White Ribbon Campaign r. t !< r * f: p-. tV; h * • P- „ by Nancy Pleasance- Sturman Slofl Writer Domestic abuse and sexual sexual assault arc words that, sadly, arc becoming a larger larger part of the vocabulary of the 90's. On Saturday, December 5, approximately 30 Clarington men gathered at St. Paul's United Church in Bowmanvillc to hear about domestic violence and what to do to help those in need. One of the guest speakers speakers was Judy Morine, Domestic Violence Awareness Coordinator for the Sexual Assault Centre at Lakcridgc Health Oshawa. Ms. Morine stated stated that physical abuse happens happens in every generation, no one is immune,. Cases she knows of, from her work with abused women, involve individuals from 17 to 68 years old. Statistics show that, on average, women are abused 35 times before they gain the courage to leave. Some factors that frd prevent women from leav- L\' ing an abusive relationship include financial conditions conditions and the abusing partner's partner's remorse and promises promises of change. When a woman comes to the hospital for treatment treatment of a bad cut or bruise caused by physical abuse, she very often will not admit the violence, but instead will invent an excuse, such as "I ran into the door" or "I fell down the stairs." If abuse is alleged, the emergency room staff alerts the domestic violence team. These individuals are specially specially trained to deal with such a victim and are available to be. present within 30 minutes *■ for I" immediate counseling, as soon as the physical £> injuries are attended to. A p,' private room is provided to gv her to tell her story to a jC team member. So often, these stories are all too >" familiar to these trained tp; counsellors. The case is £• documented and photos ■v are taken of the injuries. £ Charges may be laid by 0 police, but this is not ip mandatory and is totally at the discretion of the vic- i- tim. If charges arc not laid, the evidence is filed for future reference by the hospital. P Morine stressed the j; importance of the victims' (-; stories being believed, as it ; : may be extremely difficult j ; for the victim to come forward. forward. One clue one might look for that could indicate abuse in a relationship would be frequent, apparently apparently accidental injury or a controlling partner. Some abusing partners appear as caring and respectable people in the community, but may be very different people at home. When children arc involved, they may be found to be fearful r or anxious for their molh- » cr's safety. Even if chil- r dren have not actually seen the violence, they arc fre- P quently aware. ; Family, friends and pco- ; pie from the victim's ► church, community groups -Ictc. need to be supportive pas some women aren't Palways aware of their options. Abuse can begin any time during the relationship. relationship. Even before marriages marriages begin, there may be . Seniors' Light Tour Sunday This year's Kinsmen Club Senior Citizens' Tour of Christmas Lights will be held Sunday, December 13th. Buses leave approximately approximately 6 p.m. from Trinity Church, Bowmanvillc. > Refreshments will be provided provided after the lour. Those wishing to go, or needing transportation to the has, please call McGregor Drugs 623-5792 or Wayne I lodge 623-5258. I We urge citizens to please co-operate hy illuminating your homes. ; This project is sponsored by the Bowmanvillc Kinsmen and Kinetic Clubs. control issues and 50% of abuse starts during a pregnancy, pregnancy, since that's when women arc most vulnerable. vulnerable. The second speaker at the breakfast, is a former victim herself and shared her experience. While the abuse was occurring in her marriage, she considered herself "crazy" at times and consequently did not report the problem right away. She told the group she always could come up with a reason for keeping it to herself. She was afraid of how her family would react and scared she couldn't couldn't make it on her own. The first year after she left was the hardest time of her life as she had many decisions decisions to make. Some scary figures in Ontario are that 40 women each year are murdered by their partners. With statistics showing that one in four women will experience abuse at the hands of a partner, virtually virtually every one of us knows someone who has been or is a victim. This is a startling and sad revelation revelation about our society. Men at the breakfast were asked to examine their place in the world. Where do you sit? Where arc the power and balances? balances? On the eve of the anniversary of the massacre massacre of 14 young women in Montreal in 1989, the group was asked what arc men doing to prevent this from ever happening again? Hugh Donnelly, minister from St. Andrew's Presbyterian Church, spoke on the White Ribbon Campaign and how it was created to raise awareness of oppression, abuse and violence. During a marriage ceremony, ceremony, when the minister says, "for belter or worse," the vows do not mean tolerating tolerating abuse, said Mcrvyn Russell, Minister of the Orono United Church. There is help out there for all. [• ^ ■ ' OFFERING SUPPORT -- Approximately 30 men came out for breakfast on Saturday morning in support of the White Ribbon Campaign. Speakers representing Bethcsda House and the Domestic Violence Awareness Co-ordinator for the Sexual Assault Centre at Lakeridge Health Oshawa were on hand to answer any questions. 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